Work Hard, Have Fun, No Drama...

"Sometimes you have to let people go because
they are toxic to you. Let them go because they
take and take and leave you empty. Let them go
because in the ocean of life when all you're trying to
do is stay afloat, they are the anchor that's drowning you"

After the past few years and especially this year, I have learned a lot about growing. When you get older, you realize that you need to work hard to get somewhere and this may take some time. You realize you need to take life a little less seriously in order to laugh and enjoy the moment. We only get one single life and we need to treasure every moment we get. Most of all, you realize you don't need those that bring drama to your life. Your life can be exciting, fun and memorable without it. Just like the above quote, it is important to keep a positive outlook. Life becomes a lot easier and more enjoyable when you just live for the moment and don't let drama bring you down. 

"There comes a time in life when you have to
let go of all the pointless drama & the people who
create it & surround yourself with people who make
you laugh so hard that you forget the bad and focus
solely on the good. After all, life is too short to be anything
but happy"

Hopefully my life lesson inspires you to inhale the positive and exhale the negative so that you lead a fuller and more laughter filled life. Life is short and you never know what could happen so decide to work hard, have fun and let go of all the pointless drama!

~ S

Some beautiful quotes...

I haven't added some of my favourite new quotes for a while, so I thought this would be a good time to do so! Hope they inspire you!

"Associate yourself with people of good quality, for it is better to be alone than in bad company"

"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing the monkey bars.
You have to let go at some point in order to move forward" - C.S Lewis

"Life... has knocked me down a few times,
it showed me things I never wanted to see,
I experiences many sadness and failures...
BUT
I ALWAYS get up"

"Not everyone thinks the way you think,
knows the things you know,
believes the things you believe,
nor acts the way you would act.
Remember this and you will go a long way in getting along with people"

"People inspire you, or they drain you, pick them wisely"

"People will love you. People will hate you.
And none of it will have anything to do with you"

My hope is that these quotes inspire you as much as they inspired me.

~ S

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Looking Ahead...

I think this quote in particular is one to live by. 

In life, we all have various relationships and sometimes we get people who treat us well and ones that don't. The thing to remember is that life is too short to knock your head against the wall trying to save the relationships where you are not treated right. Sometimes it is difficult to just forget about the one's who don't but it is more worthwhile to invest your energy in those relationships that do treat you well and acknowledge you, your strengths, weaknesses and that support you. 

How often do we hear people say "everything happens for a reason". Sometimes it is really difficult to understand what that reason is. The thing is that it helps you to see your situation from a more holistic perspective as if there is a destiny for you and ultimately it will be the right thing for you at the right time. 

What I have learned this year is that you don't always get what you want but perhaps there is something better for you. Maybe better relationships, better opportunities, better experiences. And sometimes, we have to be open to destiny taking us on a journey and learning on the way. Sometimes losing people might mean you need to learn forgiveness or loss. Sometimes gaining relationships mean you have something to learn from these people and they have something to add to your life. And sometimes, you don't get what you want because life is not easy. Life is hard work and sometimes you have to work harder than others but with the help of faith, you will realize why this is so in due time. In essence, you need to be patient and reflect on the 'no's' you might receive as they will break you down to build you up to be a better and more prepared individual that will eventually yield a yes.

Remember your worth and never let go. Life is too short for regret so why bother with things that make you unhappy. Follow your passions and your passions will follow you. Always remember to grow and learn from every situation and that whatever roadblocks or opportunities that come your way are there for a reason, and it is up to you to piece the bigger picture together. 

I hope that this quote rings true for you as it does for me. Good luck in your journey and remember it will be worth it if you believe it to be.

~ S
x x x

It's the NEW year, is it a new YOU?!

It is finally the start to a new year.
We always make new years resolutions, trying to be better people. The new year almost symbolizes a new clean slate where we can begin again but as brand new people. 

What are you going to change about yourself? How are you going to grow?
I challenge you to do one thing every day that scares you. Why?
It is because when we are scared and conquer our fears that we find ourselves and grow. We find out how far we can push ourselves and its quite exciting breaking through a fear. It prepares us as we enter each day fearless.

I recently conquered a fear of mine which is of heights. I immediately wanted to so "No, no way I'm climbing a 30 feet high tree to jump off it!". But I thought to myself "I'll regret it if I don't do it" and so as hard as each step was up that tree, no words could describe the sense of accomplishment when I jumped off. I felt fearless and ready to do anything just from that. Just imagine the possibilities we could have by conquering one fear day by day. They say after all, being in an uncomfortable place is good because it forces you to grow.

There is a great quote from 'We Bought a Zoo' which can help you overcome your fears...

Literally, it takes 20 seconds to pluck up the courage to do something and by just gathering that courage and going through with something is enough just to be proud of. So I dare you try this today!

I further challenge you to go on new adventures constantly. Say yes to things you wouldn't usually do because by doing things you've never done, you may get what you've never gotten. Be open and I promise you, you will grow.

So I leave you with this amazing quote:

Good luck on conquering your fears and embracing new adventures!

Here's to a a year of growth, happiness, love and FUN!

~ S

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Six Degrees of Separation

"First, you think the worst is a broken heart
What's gonna kill you is the second part
And the third, Is when your world splits down the middle
And fourth, you're gonna think that you fixed yourself
Fifth, you see them out with someone else
And the sixth, is when you admit that you may have f%&*ed up a little." - The Script

 Listen to the song here! 

Whilst these lyrics are written specifically for people who have had a bad breakup with a boyfriend or girlfriend, I feel it is rather relevant for any relationship.

So often, we begin new relationships and end others. It is always exciting to begin new connections yet it is so difficult to end ones that once meant so much.
When I heard this, I really connected with it because it is true that there are stages of grief we all go through.

The broken heart is always the first. That moment when you physically feel as if your heart has torn apart. It almost feels as if all functioning ceases to exist.
The second part that is not mentioned, for me, is the coming to terms with the loss.
The third is when your world splits down the middle because everything associated with that person changes. All their friends or all the memories they shared with you shatter.
Then you eventually get to a point where you genuinely believe you have moved on until you see them with other people. It is a mortifying feeling knowing that someone has moved on and you haven't.
Lastly, you start to blame yourself. You start over analyzing the situation and looking at all the different things you could have done.

The truth is, if you haven't come across an end to a relationship you probably will. I know this sounds depressing but it is important to know that you are not the only one.

We all are constantly changing an growing as life carries on and so are other people. Sometimes, there comes a time where 2 people who were once so in sync, soulmates, change. Their paths split. This happens all the time and it is truly heartbreaking especially to those important close relationships. But is this a reason to say "you may have f%&*ed up a little"?. No, it is not your fault you changed and it is not your fault someone else changed. Life happens to each  and everyone of us.

So then we get to something called 'moving on'. If you had to sit and define what you think it is, do you think it is the same for everyone else? I used to be one of those people that 'buries things under the carpet' instead of dealing with it. And so the issue would keep occurring until I dealt with it.I've learned that it is easier to deal with something with maturity and time instead of burying it just so I can feel numb. Obviously this is not how everyone should 'move on', sometimes burying it works for people sometimes it doesn't. The key thing here is to figure out what the best way is for you to move on.

Here is an interesting quote, I stumbled upon.
When we lose relationships that mean so much, people who say "time heals all wounds" are annoying.
That is not what we want to hear. But I think it is true in  the sense that in time, it gets less painful and you think about it less. When I read this quote, it was exactly how I felt with the original quote. It is in fact that time does not heal the wound because it is always going to be there. Eventually, we try to move on by sewing up our broken heart so  that the pain is less. But it is never really gone. That person will always be in our hearts. What matters is that we are able to come to our senses and let the scar tissue decrease the pain so that we can move on to relationships that meant for that moment in time. Everything happens for a reason (I believe) and by moving on and closing one door, we are able to open many others which will bring joy and happiness and light.

Which ever stage you might find yourself in at one time or another, know two things;
You are not alone & when you figure out hot to move on, things will get better... way better!

~ S

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xoxo

Spring Quotes

 Here are some of my favourite recent finds...

Those songs that help you give you answers are for me the universe sending a message, Everything happens for a reason and so when a particular song is played at a particular time in your life you can't help but to think why.

Letting go is sometimes the biggest relief as it allows you to open your eyes to your experiences in stead of sweating the small stuff

Say this to yourself everyday

Those consecutive days where nothing seems to go right, remember this quote.
Remember that it is just a bad time and it will pass just like everyday the sun manages to rise.

What this is saying is that you need to take chances and be uncomfortable in order to grow. Being in the safe zone has not served anyone amazing opportunities to grow as a person.

Just plain physics :)

You make mistakes and you learn from them (so we hope). You become the person you are because of your ability to overcome this mistakes and to learn from them. You are so much more than 'mistakes'.

This quote really rings true for me as I embark on a year where my odds are small but even though we land up in situations where we are faced with the odds we need to look beyond that. Instead of contending with those odds we step away thinking 'I would have never made it'. But how would you know if you walked away? Sometimes you got to realise it is not the odds that matter but the passion and drive you have within yourself to over throw these odds.

It is the little things...

Nothing like letting go on a run or walk or gym session...

The wound is where we learn..

Words to live by

Hope you enjoyed them!

~S

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xoxo

If you're feeling blue, try painting yourself a different colour...

It is so often in life where we find ourselves down in the dumps wondering how it is that we got to this place.
We look at all the people around us and start to point fingers at who is responsible for us feeling this way. We hurt others and even lose focus on our life goals.

The truth is, when we are feeling down, it is us that we let feel this way. We give ourselves permission to be sad and then pity ourselves for it. A pity party is not what is going to pull us out of this black hole, no, what we need is to change our mindsets. We need to change how we view the world and how view ourselves within a frame that is more positive. We need to believe that within us all lies the potential and strength that only we can perform in order to 'stop feeling blue'.

It is easy to talk about what we need or should do to be happy again but the question remains as to how...
Well, taking some time to think about one's self from an outsider point of view will show life in a broader perspective. Secondly, highlighting one's negative thoughts and feelings of guilt and blame so that those are the ones targeted by transforming them into feelings of courage and empowerment. By thinking about who you are blaming, for instance, and pointing a finger at yourself will illustrate the control you thought you didn't have before and show you that you can control a better life for yourself. You have the power to change your colour. Only you can change your life.

We all feel down at some point or another. Sometimes more than others. The thing is life has seasons and nothing lasts forever. Feeling down or blue won't last forever. Why? Because within us all, we have the ability to CHANGE and CONTROL our lives. Within ourselves we have the courage and strength to understand and so why not paint ourselves a different colour? It is time for us to be active in our feelings instead of passively passing the blame to others. We may even feel that certain situations are out of our control and that is why we're down but no, your feelings to that situation are completely in YOUR control.

So what do you choose?

~ S

How to Win...

"The world aint all sunshine and rainbows.
It is a very mean and nasty place.
It will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it.
You, me or nobody is going to hit as hard as life.
BUT,
It aint about how hard you hit.
It is about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward,
how much you can take and keep moving forward.
That is how WINNING is done."

 When I came across this quote, I was really inspired. It happens more often than not that life kicks us and beats us to the point where we are unable to get up. At some point in everyone's life, they will feel what it is like to hit rock bottom. It is a dark scary place that seems as if there is no ladder to get out. Life is cruel and tends to serve the notion "every man for himself" and sometimes, you may be nice to people but get run over in doing so. Sometimes, you may take a risk and have to suffer its consequences rather than its rewards. Sometimes, you lose friendships or relationships that were your crutches in coping with life.
Whatever the case, it happens.

But, the truth of it, is that only remarkable stories exist from people who rose from those dark places.

"Rock bottom and rebuilding your life"

People who were able to climb out of their hole and try again are the most successful. Not only are they the most successful but they know the meaning of success and failure making them grateful for where they are.
They say that being grateful for something is the most powerful energy you can send out to the universe.
The strength it takes to pick yourself up when the world shows you its cruelty is what winning is all about.

So if you are currently going through this, know that it does not last forever and that if you just keep moving forward then you are a winner. By just having the strength and courage to TRY again is what makes people great.

"Keep moving forward"

"It's only after you have lost everything that you
are FREE to do anything"

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Much love
~ S
P.S: please feel free to leave comments!
xoxo

This is YOUR life, are you who YOU want to be?

This Is Your Life - Switchfoot

"Yesterday is a wrinkle on your forehead
Yesterday is a promise that you've broken
Don't close your eyes, don't close your eyes
This is your life and today is all you've got now
Yeah, and today is all you'll ever have
Don't close your eyes
Don't close your eyes

This is your life, are you who you want to be?
This is your life, are you who you want to be?
This is your life, is it everything you dreamed that it would be?
When the world was younger and you had everything to lose

Yesterday is a kid in the corner
Yesterday is dead and over

This is your life, are you who you want to be?
This is your life, are you who you want to be?
This is your life, is it everything you dreamed that it would be?
When the world was younger and you had everything to lose

Don't close your eyes
Don't close your eyes
Don't close your eyes
Don't close your eyes

This is your life are you who you want to be?
This is your life are you who you want to be?

This is your life, are you who you want to be?
This is your life, are you who you want to be?
This is your life, is it everything you dreamed it would be
When the world was younger and you had everything to lose

And you had everything to lose"

There always comes a time in our lives where we wonder, are we who we want to be and where we want to be. We wonder if we have done enough or if there is enough time to do more. Sometimes things don't work out and you sit and feel sorry for yourself. Sometimes you don't have the career you wanted, or the friends you thought you had are drifting away, maybe you've lost some people or just lost yourself along this path called life. Things don't work out the way we want them to. If it did then where would there be space to grow? Things go wrong for a reason. Maybe you are not in the career you wanted because it was never part of your destiny or maybe your friends drifted apart because they are no longer on the same life path as you and that leaves room to meet other people who are on the same path. We lose some people because they did what they needed to do on this earth and they needed to move on to something else. If you've lost your meaning for life, it is life telling you to grow up. It is always those most uncomfortable situations where we feel the most pain that we learn the most. 

"When the world was younger and you had everything to lose"How true is this statement. When we are young, we show less fear because we knew we had everything to lose but as we get older, it gets harder to change and to take risk because we fear change. But no matter how old you are, or where you are in your life, there is always space to grow and there is always room for change. Change is one of the most inevitable things life has to offer and instead of fearing it we must embrace it because it is change that takes us out of those darkest moments. It is change that helps us to grow. It is change that allows us to see life in perspective.

So now you reading this post and wondering okay cool this relates to me but what do I do now?
The first thing you do is to realize you are not alone and that there are many people relating to this post.
Then you think about all the things that have gone RIGHT in your life. Think of all those things and be grateful for them.
Then you need to make changes, think of all the negative things and how you can change it, make new friends, find hobbies, get creative, work on your existing relationships, whatever you feel needs work.
Watch how you start to find your way again. Watch how you start to realize, wait this is the life I want this is who I want to be.

Remember, this is YOUR life, you have control over how you see the world. You have the ability to make choices of how you choose to respond to situations. Your life is yours for the taking so make it a good one.

Much love
~ S
P.S: please feel free to leave comments!
xoxo

Power of Words

 Watch this you tube clip of what happens when a women changes a blind beggar's life...

Power of Words  <--[CLICK HERE TO VIEW CLIP on YOUTUBE]

It is quite astonishing the amount of effect words have. They can make you feel on top of the world yet they can break you down and make you feel as if your heart is broken.

It happens far too often where people speak before thinking and within this process they hurt others.
Bullies for example, especially verbal bullying, break their victims down with words. They find ways to belittle you or manipulate you. It is more likely than not that once upon time you were the victim or the bully.
Too many times have people made you cry from just saying something nasty, not saying anything at all and sometimes just being brief with words such as 'ok', 'fine', 'whatever'.

If you were the victim then you should be at a place where you would never allow yourself to be like this to others.
If you were a victim, then know that as powerful as these words may be, they are merely letters then come together to form a pattern than means something.

I think it is important to reflect on the power of words and aim to use them as a tool to promote positivity. Use them to give someone a compliment, to say something nice about someone or to even do good for someone. With power comes great responsibility so use your words wisely.

Hopefully this post will make you think twice about what you say and by doing so it will allow space for you to pause and think of something good to say rather than hurting  or not helping someone.

Peace! xoxo

xxx