This is YOUR life, are you who YOU want to be?

This Is Your Life - Switchfoot

"Yesterday is a wrinkle on your forehead
Yesterday is a promise that you've broken
Don't close your eyes, don't close your eyes
This is your life and today is all you've got now
Yeah, and today is all you'll ever have
Don't close your eyes
Don't close your eyes

This is your life, are you who you want to be?
This is your life, are you who you want to be?
This is your life, is it everything you dreamed that it would be?
When the world was younger and you had everything to lose

Yesterday is a kid in the corner
Yesterday is dead and over

This is your life, are you who you want to be?
This is your life, are you who you want to be?
This is your life, is it everything you dreamed that it would be?
When the world was younger and you had everything to lose

Don't close your eyes
Don't close your eyes
Don't close your eyes
Don't close your eyes

This is your life are you who you want to be?
This is your life are you who you want to be?

This is your life, are you who you want to be?
This is your life, are you who you want to be?
This is your life, is it everything you dreamed it would be
When the world was younger and you had everything to lose

And you had everything to lose"

There always comes a time in our lives where we wonder, are we who we want to be and where we want to be. We wonder if we have done enough or if there is enough time to do more. Sometimes things don't work out and you sit and feel sorry for yourself. Sometimes you don't have the career you wanted, or the friends you thought you had are drifting away, maybe you've lost some people or just lost yourself along this path called life. Things don't work out the way we want them to. If it did then where would there be space to grow? Things go wrong for a reason. Maybe you are not in the career you wanted because it was never part of your destiny or maybe your friends drifted apart because they are no longer on the same life path as you and that leaves room to meet other people who are on the same path. We lose some people because they did what they needed to do on this earth and they needed to move on to something else. If you've lost your meaning for life, it is life telling you to grow up. It is always those most uncomfortable situations where we feel the most pain that we learn the most. 

"When the world was younger and you had everything to lose"How true is this statement. When we are young, we show less fear because we knew we had everything to lose but as we get older, it gets harder to change and to take risk because we fear change. But no matter how old you are, or where you are in your life, there is always space to grow and there is always room for change. Change is one of the most inevitable things life has to offer and instead of fearing it we must embrace it because it is change that takes us out of those darkest moments. It is change that helps us to grow. It is change that allows us to see life in perspective.

So now you reading this post and wondering okay cool this relates to me but what do I do now?
The first thing you do is to realize you are not alone and that there are many people relating to this post.
Then you think about all the things that have gone RIGHT in your life. Think of all those things and be grateful for them.
Then you need to make changes, think of all the negative things and how you can change it, make new friends, find hobbies, get creative, work on your existing relationships, whatever you feel needs work.
Watch how you start to find your way again. Watch how you start to realize, wait this is the life I want this is who I want to be.

Remember, this is YOUR life, you have control over how you see the world. You have the ability to make choices of how you choose to respond to situations. Your life is yours for the taking so make it a good one.

Much love
~ S
P.S: please feel free to leave comments!
xoxo

Power of Words

 Watch this you tube clip of what happens when a women changes a blind beggar's life...

Power of Words  <--[CLICK HERE TO VIEW CLIP on YOUTUBE]

It is quite astonishing the amount of effect words have. They can make you feel on top of the world yet they can break you down and make you feel as if your heart is broken.

It happens far too often where people speak before thinking and within this process they hurt others.
Bullies for example, especially verbal bullying, break their victims down with words. They find ways to belittle you or manipulate you. It is more likely than not that once upon time you were the victim or the bully.
Too many times have people made you cry from just saying something nasty, not saying anything at all and sometimes just being brief with words such as 'ok', 'fine', 'whatever'.

If you were the victim then you should be at a place where you would never allow yourself to be like this to others.
If you were a victim, then know that as powerful as these words may be, they are merely letters then come together to form a pattern than means something.

I think it is important to reflect on the power of words and aim to use them as a tool to promote positivity. Use them to give someone a compliment, to say something nice about someone or to even do good for someone. With power comes great responsibility so use your words wisely.

Hopefully this post will make you think twice about what you say and by doing so it will allow space for you to pause and think of something good to say rather than hurting  or not helping someone.

Peace! xoxo

xxx

What is Success?

"What is success?
To laugh often and much;
To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children;
To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of
false friends;
To appreciate beauty, to find the best in others;
To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden
patch or a redeemed social condition;
To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.
This is to have succeeded."
-Ralph Waldo Emerson

People often associate success with money and making it in one's career however real success has many more factors.
It is not about money at the end of the day but rather the fact that you are happy. It requires one too to be tolerable of those
that may be smarter and rather admire them instead of being jealous. It is about being able to be criticized and taking it as a
way to grow yourself in order to reach your full potential. Friends often betray us because it is often those closest to us that
leave us, hurt us or use us but by enduring such circumstances will enhance growth to reach maximum potential.
Finding the best in others is like finding positivity and this ability is so important to acquire because
once one is able to perceive positivity in every aspect of life, positivity will naturally flood one's life with good things.
It is about changing one's way of thinking and focusing on the good rather than the bad.
Trying to leave this world in a better place will only catalyze others to do so too.
The most touching part of this quote is knowing that you have made one person's life easier is the sole reason to success.
Belittling someone to the point where they don't want to exist is not success.
Ignoring someone who needs your help because it is inconvenient for you is not success.
Holding back because you are too afraid to help someone is not success.
Saying hurtful words to someone just because you hurt too is not success.


I hope that reading this will give you a different perspective of what success may mean.
May this post encourage you to be a nicer person, to look at the world more positively and not be afraid to
help people because one small act could possibly mean the world to that person.
This of course is not an easy process and may take time to grow but once you start, you will see the world
will give back to you.

Much Love xoxo

Don't forget to follow me on twitter @HerQuoteBook

Like Seasons, People Change Too...

"Seeing people change isn't what hurts.
What hurts is remembering who they used to be."

It is inevitable that in life everything is constantly changing. We are constantly adapting to new things. If everything were to be the same then we would never grow. However, it seems a lot of heartbreak and conflict arises when someone we know changes. It is almost universal, every one of us have had or have someone in our lives who changed or is changing and there is nothing we could have done or can do about it. We often get those quotes about how people shouldn't change for anyone but people do. People change when something happens to them or when something doesn't happen to them. As we grow we all change.

Sometimes, people don't change for the good. Sometimes they may become superficial and shallow. Sometimes they may become withdrawn and detached from everyone. It is hard to be left behind. It is difficult letting go of that person because they are no longer who you thought they were because they have changed into someone you don't even know. Unfortunately in life, we get those people that stay in our lives forever and those that don't. Certain people are in your life for a reason and sometimes when there is no longer a reason, they leave. It is so difficult mourning the friend you once had that perhaps you felt were even soul mates. But people change.

I learned a valuable thing that is helpful particularly in this situation. Mentalisation.
Mentalisation is a concept used by a therapist or counselor. The way to understand it is through this example; You get a mother and a baby and so when the baby cries, the mother responds. If they baby keeps on crying, the mother tries alternate methods to care for the babies needs. If the mother is frustrated then the baby gets frustrated. This is kind of like a therapy session where by a therapist needs to mentalise the clients situation and treat the clients needs. If the therapist is frustrated then they are unable to understand the clients situation.

The relevance of this is because when you are sad and upset about a friend or partner who has changed, you gotta mentalise and understand that there are certain things that have happened in their lives to have made them change. There are things that they are dealing with and trying to adapt to. When you are able to be neutral and isolate your feels of sadness and despair, you are able to understand that they changed because they are going through hard times themselves. It is important to realise too that people are not permanent and people walk in and out of our lives all the time. We all experience loss at some time or another but we need to learn from it. Everything does happen for a reason and sometimes these reasons are not clear. Certain people teach us certain things about life and about ourselves and that is the important thing to learn. We need to embrace loss and welcome new friendships and relationships so we can keep growing. Those that are meant to be in our lives will be and those who are not will walk their own different path.

Hope this post helps anyone dealing with this issue. Remember to mentalise! (:


P.S. don't forget to follow my QUOTES on twitter @HerQuoteBook

xoxo

Quotes of the Day

This could not be more true. More often than not we fail to realise the importance of telling people exactly how we feel. Truth is, we never really know when it will be too late.

It is important to remember that suffering exists in order for us to overcome it and the overcoming of it makes us into to better people.

That is really the whole aim of this blog; to show people that they are not alone. There is always someone somewhere feeling the same way you do. There is always someone somewhere who cares how you feel, you just got to make the choice to see it and believe it.

Getting into a relationship because you fear being alone is possibly the worst thing you can do because you then settle. Don't settle! Work on yourself and be happy and comfortable when you are alone and then you will be ready to love!

Shot in the Dark

I had a vision for the life that was ahead of me
I had a reason, had a ride and had a destiny
I thought I never knew where I was heading
I would never look back

I had it all and then I went and let it slip away
I’m working overtime I’m gonna make it anyway
Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose, sometimes you never get her back

Oh, you know that I’m

Rising up slowly and getting higher
I’ve been living with a hole in my heart
Weighing down on me, but I’m a fighter
I know I still got a shot in the dark
Baby, we still got a shot in the dark

Sometimes in life you meet the people that you think you trust
Wake up one day and find that everything had turned to dust
I always knew that you’d be waiting for me when I got back

Waiting when I came

Rising up slowly and getting higher
I’ve been living with a hole in my heart
Weighing down on me, but I’m a fighter
I know I still got a shot in the dark
Baby, we still got a shot in the dark

I’m gonna find a way
I’m gonna find a way, yeah
I’m gonna find a way

I got a vision for the life that is right in front of me
I got a ride, I got a reason, got a destiny
I know exactly where I’m headed and I’m never looking back
Well, nothing’s holding me back
Well, nothing’s holding me back

Rising up slowly and getting higher
I’ve been living with a hole in my heart
Weighing down on me, man, but I’m a fighter
I know I still got a shot in the dark

Rising up slowly and I’m getting higher
I’ve been living with a hole in my heart
Weighing down on me, baby I’m a fighter
I know I still got a shot in the dark
Baby, we still got a shot in the dark

And I know that I still got a shot
(Augustana - Shot in the Dark)

 I was listening to this song today and I thought it would be perfect to share. It speaks about life and how often relationships leave us with a hole in our hearts but if we stay and fight it, we will still have a chance to overcome the darkness.

I love the line about how you meet people who you think you trust and then one day what you thought ceased to exist. It often happens where you get let down because people who you thought you could count on, left you to fend for yourself. But this song says that even though that may happen, you can rise up and overcome it.

This song then says " I'm gonna find a way". I think this is rather important. In life, we all have those moments where we feel that we just can't get back up but we got to get up by finding our way because that adversity and ability to try again is what courage is made of. That courage holds true strength and makes you unstoppable therefore finding a way out is going to make you into a person that can do ANYTHING!

Sometimes we don't have a clear idea of where we want to be but if we let go of everything that is holding us back, we will be able to rise up even with a hole in our heart. 

All the relationships whether romantic or platonic, the ones that don't last often take something from us and tend to leave a hole in our heart. You can actually feel this hole when your heart aches. Everyone takes something from us at some point and sometimes the damage is irreversible. We go and we live with this hole that sometimes holds us back from starting new relationships because we not sure how much more damage our hearts can take. "I've been living with a hole in my heart weighing down on me, man, but i'm a fighter. I know i still got a shot in the dark". We may have this hole but the secret is to remember our inner strength. Our inner strength is so powerful and it if we let it manifest we have the power to overcome in damage. We have the power to give life a shot. We have the power to give people a shot. We have the power to give ourselves another shot.

More Beautiful Quotes

It is a fact of life but the point of it is to pick yourself back up and find those that wont

Sometimes just giving someone a chance could be the greatest thing you could ever do. Try it, i DARE you!

Not very often do we get an opportunity twice so take advantage and take it on.

It's those nights where we sat in the kitchen eating the scraps of food left in the fridge at 4 in the morning that make the most precious memories. Those big days are still memories but its those little one's are the ones that make life the most worthwhile.

Fears are sometimes the only things that hold you back from reaching your true potential. It is worth working on trying to get over them so that you have nothing to stand in your way

But sometimes being alone helps you to find yourself, to really get in touch with who you are.

Because we don't want to ever feel that way again. But it is that pain that teaches the greatest lessons and leaves the deepest scars.

You just need to be a little patient. Sometimes the only worthwhile things in life are those that we wait for.

At some stage someone will tell you "time heals all wounds" and you think it is the biggest load of crap but in time you realise wow there is truly truth to this saying because before you know it, you think of that person just a little less than you did yesterday

This is so true. So often than not, do you expect people to treat you the way you treat them but this is not always the case. You just need keep on treating people well regardless because that makes you a better person ultimately.

One of my favourite quotes.

Having the fear of being wrong constrains us from stepping forward and doing something truly great. We need to step out of our comfort zone and step into the possibility of being wrong because if we don't take chances then we will never really know our true potential

We cannot decide how we feel about something until we have taken the opportunity to truly know it.

Beautiful Quotes for Everyone

Sometimes it is just what we need. We need to escape from reality so that we can just be ourselves with no limits or constraints telling us what to do or how to be. Dreams are truly our own product and so sometimes it is special to just visit that unique original place

Not everyone likes to say that they enjoy change. Change is difficult as we have to step out of our comfort zone and face whatever challenges life may throw at us. Change is never permanent so when you face a difficult time, remember that it is temporary and you are going through this to grow and become a better person.

It seems that in today's society, gossip and bullying are becoming more prevalent. I ask you, what is the point of it? It only makes people feel like they are worth nothing. So instead of spreading hate, stop yourself and rather say something nice because making someone feel better about themselves is going to make you feel better about yourself.

I truly agree with this quote. It shows true courage and strength when you hear about the stories of people who carried on in life in the face of adversity and because they did that, many good things came their way. If we get up every time we fall, we are inadvertently telling the universe that we can get knocked down but we will always get back up no matter how hard the blow.

Life is a constant process of going somewhere but when you eventually get to that place, the results are most worthwhile

It happens far too many times where people give up just before the finish line. When you feel like you can't go on any more, you need to reflect on why you have held on for so long and then you will realise why its worthwhile carrying on.

Sometimes people need to look deeper than face value because beauty is not always an external element. Sometimes it is within.

Your mind is your most powerful tool. It is what makes you strong. There have been many miraculous stories of people who were dying but lived longer than the doctors predicted because of their state of mind. Your mind can also make you weak if you let it. Sometimes we may overanalyse a situation and create things that are not really there. It is important to realise the strength of your mind and to use for the good. When life gets you down or when you get burned, you can choose whether you fall victim to it or you can rise up against it by not letting it affect you.