Beauty is Judged by the Size of your Heart & not the Size of your Jeans

"I walked a lonely road where words would burn my soul.
Everything was seen from the outside and not the inbetween.
They think they know, but they only know what I choose to show.

And all around me spills out the truth.
I see for what people really are.
They're lazy, don't care about the inside.
They're superficial, don't care about those that don't fit the mould"

This particular post hits very close to home. The song posted above, is about a person who suffers at the hands of society. Society produce a mould for us all to fit and if we don't then we become easy targets for those who do fit the mould. The truth is, in today's society, appearance is seen as the first impression of people. If you are wearing a baggy jersey, your first impression is that you don't have any personal hygiene or maybe that you are too lazy to dress is 'normal' clothes.

This is close to home for me because I have been a victim of bullying due to my appearance. The sad fact of life is that almost everyone can say that at least one time or another, they were too victims. High school was a very hard time and is for a lot of adolescents as there are sudden social rules that one must abide to or you will fall prey to those who fit the mould. It is rather upsetting that appearance is looked at before personality. Some people who have unbelievable hearts are not even given a chance because they are too short, too fat, too tall, too something! When did our society become so materialistic and superficial?

My experiences have showed  just how superficial society can be. During my teen years, shyness, insecurities and having a lack of control of my life seemed to place me in the perfect position to be bullied. I was called all types of names by boys and girls. There was something inside of me though that wanted to fight back. I woke up not wanting to go to school but something told me to do it and something told me to make new friends. As I got older, this inner strength became stronger and stronger and by the time I finished school I was more confident and started to tackle my weaknesses one by one. The point of this story is that we all have this inner strength... it may present as very weak at first but we all have it. The trick is to grow it and to change your mindset that you will not be the victim and that you will not give up. As I got older, I noticed how people's behaviour changed with my new 'me'. Instead of people pulling a chair away as I sat, they started to pull it up for me. Compliments became regular and people became nicer and more helpful. Sometimes, people want to give up because it seems to hard to grow this inner strength.I'm here to tell whoever reads this, that I have been there and I have overcome it and so can you. Having this experience, which so many movies try to do like the ones that put people in a fat suit etc, illustrated to me just how superficial society is and that fitting the mould is actually rewarded. The truth is:
"People are going to label you. It is how you overcome those labels. That's what counts". Whatever your place is within society, you will have a label and it is important to build on that inner strength in order to be able to over come those labels.

Another quote I found is: "I am not your opinion of me. I am what I choose to be". It is your decision to be who you want to be. If you want to be a certain way that doesn't fit the mould then that is who you are and nobody should change that. Like the title of this post, Beauty should be judged according to someone's heart and personality rather then how thin or fat they are. Why should there be a mould... who sets this mould? Our duty today, should be to change people's perception so that personality is the first impression rather than appearance. We need to break this superficial mould. People should behave the SAME way to people all types of sizes and appearances because they are human and deserve that!

 It is time for bullying to stop. It is time to break out of this mould and be whoever you want to be. Find your inner strength and you can overcome anything!

“I guess you can’t be nostalgic for something you never left”

The title of this post is from the popular American series ‘Greek’. These words made a loud echo.


Ever notice when something special happens in your life, you will always remember the date or time of year it happened. Some people forget about it and remember it at that time or some just forget even if the date occurs again. From a sentimental point of view, I tend to remember all the special things in my life despite the bitter outcome. Feeling nostalgic over something or someone has its pros and cons. On one hand, you remember all the good and eliminate all the bad therefore determining the outcome of wishing you could go back. On the other hand, you tend to forget about all the good you have in your life at this present moment.
Referring specifically to this quote, Nostalgia is seen as a good thing. It is good to look back and see how much you have grown. It is good to look back and remember all the experiences whether good or bad that made you into who your are today. The problem is, when one dwells on something, for example a relationship, it is possible that nostalgia will not be experienced because how can you look back on something that you haven’t let go of, something that you have not yet to learn from because your grip on it is too tight.
When it come to that time of year and you are able to look back and say ‘wow, look how far I have come’ or ‘I wish I was stronger then’ and you able to assess your growth. Even if you feel you weren’t strong then, the mere fact that you are able to realise that opens a door to building on that strength. If that situation were ever to occur again, you will be able to overcome it because you have built up your threshold by experiencing it. That strength you once thought you never had will be present because you left that something and you were able to see your weakness allowing you to build yourself into a person that turned that weakness into a strength.

So when you are feeling nostalgic, remember the good, remember the bad and don’t forget how strong you truly are to have overcome it. If you feel that you are not nostalgic, may this post illustrate to you that it is possible to overcome anything.
You just need to loosen your grip, breathe, and believe that you can get over this and that one day you will look back at this and smile.

Everything You Lost Along The Way

I want to be your jacket
Your shelter now
I want to be your laughter
When you’re feeling down, down
 
It’s cold out there where you are
You’re just getting by, so far
If you just try with me
Maybe in time you’ll see
I want to be everything you lost along the way
The song that you used to sing
And your favorite dream
I want to be everything you lost along the way 
I want to be everything you lost along the way

I want to be your island
Your rest and peace
I want to be your silence
Surround you while you sleep, just breathe

You stopped where you fell before
You don’t want to hurt anymore
If you just try with me
Maybe in time you’ll see
I want to be everything you lost along the way
The song that you used to sing

And your favorite dream
I want to be everything you lost along the way
I want to be everything you lost along the way

Maybe you’re afraid of love and you’ll move on
Before you’re too far gone
But maybe you should just wait for once
‘Cause we’re almost, we’re so close

And if you just try with me
Maybe in time you’ll see
I want to be everything you lost along the way
The song that you used to sing
And your favorite dream
I want to be everything you lost along the way

If you just try with me
Maybe in time you’ll see
I want to be everything you lost along the way
The song that you used to sing
And your favorite dream

I want to be everything you lost along the way
(Tyrone Wells- Along The Way)

I  was just shuffling through a bunch of songs and I came across this song. The lyrics seem to tell a tale so common amongst us all. Through life and our experiences, the people we date, the friends we lose, we always lose some chunk of ourselves. How nice it would be to find that one person who is able to help restore all the chunks that seem to be missing. I don’t want to be a downer but as nice as the concept is, it is very hard to fill those empty spaces. I truly think that yes, while long ago we probably felt hurt and broken, it has made us into the people we are today. You live and you learn. You learn what type of people to avoid and what type of people you want to be around. You learn lessons that teach you the art of life. The lessons of life require us to go through a range of emotions. I always believed and still believe, rather love than not at all. Sometimes, a situation may offer such trauma and hurt that people would avoid living and taking risks because of the fear of feeling that way again. It takes time to heal but in order to heal successfully, one needs to get up again and carry on in life. Everyone deals with hurt in a different way, that is the beauty with human beings, we are all so different and unique. Feeling ‘not okay’ is okay sometimes but like I learned in psychology, there is a thin line that can easily be crossed. Not recovering from a fall such as being hurt by someone can be fatal. It can lead to so many downfalls. I’m here to tell you, whoever ends up reading this that yes, in life, we all feel sad at some point for whatever reason. We can find someone who makes us feel better but that person shouldn’t erase those scars because those scars make you who you are and these scars are forming you into a person that will overcome many more hurdles. Life is not going to throw anything at you that you can’t handle because you have within you everything you need to overcome whatever the world may throw at you. When you believe that, when you accept your scars, when your grip loosens on your heart, then that is when you start reaching your potential. In the meantime, go listen to this song as it is beautiful and hopefully it will remind you of this.

The Journey of Life

“Losing your way on a journey is unfortunate. But, losing your reason for the journey is a fate more cruel” – (One Tree Hill)

Along the pathway we all walk, we stumble across many barriers which prevent us from proceeding forward. That instant discomfort often causes us to either find a new pathway because we too uncomfortable overcoming this barrier or to withdraw completely and find a hole to curl up in until the barrier magically disappears. This causes us to lose our way on this journey of life.

Every human being comes across a barrier, for me it was choosing my career amongst many others. I decided to abandon the journey I was on for another because I realised it was not my journey to take, it was the one proposed to me by others. By making the conscious decision to do that brought about many complexities of which I battled with. It is true that with every decision comes a consequence. The path became brighter
and the barriers disappeared when I decided to face the discomfort. A wise person once told me, in order to grow, you need to face discomfort. All hard situations are uncomfortable because instilled in every human being is the fear of failure and the fear grows according to how hard a barrier may be to overcome. The minute that barrier is overcome, a sense of comfort can be felt because one knows that they overcame a huge hurdle. I could have carried on in that original career path but what is the point? I would have set myself up for a journey with no reason and where is there space to grow in that? Having a passion for something and goal in mind motivated one to grow and grow and to keep on growing so that they meet their full potential. You don’t know what you have within you until you challenge yourself. Which brings me to my next quote…

“Courage is not defined by those who fought and did not fall, but by those who fought, fell and rose again”-Adrienne Rich

Having the courage to overcome that barrier requires one to face the fear of failure. There is always that possibility of failure, everyone can say they failed at something, be it piano, a test, a job or what not. The point is that when someone can pick themselves up after a failure and try again, it shows courage as well as an inner strength that shows the true character of a person.  It is so special, when someone can say, “I overcame that and look where I am now”. When you watch a movie, for example ‘Pursuit of Happyness’, the main character experiences such severe poverty. He fell and fell again but he kept picking himself up and in the end the rewards were priceless. I’m not saying life is like a movie but finding that will and inner strength to say ”ok, i’ll try again tomorrow” is that reason that keeps your journey alive.

Times get hard and always will. What matters is that you go out into the world and face your discomforts so that you can grow to your full potential and by doing that, a ripple effect will cause others to do the same.

Hello World!

Today marks the first blog post of mine. My intention of this blog was in order to give insightful views about life with the side order of quotes and interesting thoughts. I intend on this blog to be one that is inspirational in the sense that people can see they are not alone. Studying psychology has allowed me to think out the box and hopefully it will be an enjoyable read to those who stumble across this blog or even life changing. Everything happens for a reason after all right?


I named this blog ‘Between the Lines’ as it is often those words between the lines that are important. Some times our eyes need to be shut closed in order to see. I want to speak about things that fall in between the lines of life because that grey area holds the most interesting ideas that often fall outside the box. In this day and age, we are taught to abide by the lines of this box and that is that but what if we picture this so called box and step outside of lines. This may be a task that leaves one wondering “what the hell is this chick on about!?”, well lets picture this box, what does it look like? Can you see it? The lines and borders that hold it together to become a shape? Well, screw the box and screw any limitations of possible thought! This is what I am going to explore and I would love to have company along the way. I welcome thoughts, comments and challenges.